The Little Things that Maintain a Healthy Relationship
Being a good husband isn’t rocket science; it’s doing simple, small things everyday to show your spouse how much you care. Being a great husband is all about respect. Here are some simple ways you can be a better husband and maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
Put Her Loofah on Top
I recently read a story online of a new wife who realized that every time she showered, her loofah was on top of her husbands and thus within easy reach. It turned out her husband made an effort every time he got finished showering to leave the shower ready for her to use. Now, you may not use loofahs or use the same hook in the shower to hang them on, but the idea can be applied to so many things in life. It only takes an extra second or two to make someone feel valued and special and that can make all the difference in their day.
Silence or an abrupt tone of voice can be interpreted as indifference, anger or frustration. Make an effort to communicate with your spouse and let her know what’s on your mind. When she asks about your day, take the time to talk about it and respond to other questions in the same way. If you need to vent, make that clear so she doesn’t feel that your frustration is directed to her and you don’t get advice you haven’t asked for. Most importantly, be a good listener so that you don’t miss that slight hesitation or awkward tone that lets you know if she’s not comfortable with something. Chances are, she doesn’t want to rock the boat, but if you ignore these little signs, resentment can build, creating an emotional distance. Communication allows you and your partner to gain a better understanding of one another. Sharing information builds trust and strengthens your relationship; it also brings you closer together.
This goes hand-in-hand with communication. Honesty and forthrightness are undermined when you don’t turn words into action. While your intent might be good, if you don’t follow through on a promise, it causes your partner to feel devalued. Continuous lack of follow through can cripple a relationship. Make sure that when you say you will take care of something, that you follow through with action.
Emotional intimacy is crucial in a marriage. The bond you have with your partner, that sense of unity and trust is the key to a healthy relationship. Emotional intimacy sets a foundation for physical intimacy. How do you build emotional intimacy? Keep the lines of communication open, be honest about your thoughts, and show your wife that you trust and value her judgment, opinions and point of view. When you connect with your partner emotionally, physical closeness comes naturally.
Help Around the House
It might seem like common sense, but go out of your way to help around the house. Your spouse may not ask for help, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want the help. Whether your spouse works or stays home to take care of the kids, she shouldn’t be responsible for every household chore. Help out around the house, even if it’s just putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher, emptying the trash can or helping the kids with their homework while your wife is busy preparing dinner.
Expressing appreciation for what your spouse does is one of the simplest things you can do, yet it will mean so much to her. Thank your spouse for the wonderful dinner she prepared. Recognize how fun she makes bath time for the kids. Take time to recognize your spouse for what she contributes daily.
Date night doesn’t have to be a big production. The key is to make time to spend with your spouse so that you can enjoy each other’s company. Spending time together reinforces your relationship. Whether it’s a quiet walk, a picnic at the park, catching a movie, or a fancy dress up dinner at your favorite restaurant, date night allows you to nurture your relationship as a couple.
Hold Her Hand
When you are out and about, remember the little gestures like holding hands or opening the door for your spouse. Even if it’s been years since you’ve done this for your spouse, that’s okay. Just go for it! These little gestures demonstrate that you still care and it will make her feel special and cherished.
Remember, it’s the simple gestures that make a big impact in your relationship!